SOLO MUM SOCIETY
From wondering if you could do this on your own, to actually living it.
Solo Mum Society is here for the whole solo motherhood journey — deciding whether it is right for you, trying to conceive, pregnancy, the early years and all the years of raising a family afterwards.
You’ll find practical information, courses and resources, but also something that can be much harder to find when you are doing this without a partner: women who genuinely understand this life because they are living it too.
Australia & New Zealand community • Global resources • Donor conception
Where are you right now?
You might only just be wondering whether solo motherhood is something you could do. You might already be deep in treatment, pregnant, surviving the newborn stage or years into raising your child.
Start with the stage that feels most like where you are today:
Considering Solo Motherhood
You haven’t decided yet. You are trying to work out whether solo motherhood is actually right for you and what you need to think about before you make that decision.
Trying to Conceive Solo
You’ve decided you want to try. Now you’re navigating donors, clinics, IUI or IVF, treatment decisions, waiting and all the emotions that come with it.
Pregnant as a Solo Mum
You’re pregnant and preparing for birth, early motherhood and the very practical reality of doing this without a partner beside you.
New Solo Mum
The baby is here. You’re recovering, learning your child, adjusting to being the only parent in the house and trying to work out what support actually helps.
Solo Mum Life
You’re out of the newborn fog and into the much bigger business of raising kids, building your village and creating a life that works for your family and for you.
You shouldn’t have to piece this whole thing together by yourself.
When I started down this path, the information was everywhere and nowhere at the same time. Fertility clinics could explain treatment. Facebook groups could answer individual questions. Google could give me a thousand opinions. But there wasn’t one place that followed the whole experience — from deciding whether to become a solo mum in the first place, through donor conception and treatment, and then into actually raising a child.
That is what I have tried to build here.
Solo Mum Society brings together the practical stuff you need to know, the voices of women and donor-conceived people who have lived it, and communities where you do not have to explain why there is no partner in the picture before you can get to the actual conversation.
Learn
Courses, expert sessions, guides and practical resources for the stage you are in.
Listen
More than 160 conversations with solo mums, donor-conceived adults, donors and fertility specialists on No Need for Prince Charming.
Connect
Stage-based communities where you can actually get to know other women living through the same part of the journey.
Still working out whether solo motherhood is right for you?
For many women, this is the hardest part of the whole journey because there is no obvious starting point. You can spend months researching fertility, donors and clinics while still not really knowing how you feel about becoming a solo mum.
I created the free Could Solo Motherhood Be Right for Me? Decision Starter to help you step back and look at the bigger decision.
It takes you through eight areas worth thinking about — including fertility, donor conception, money, support and your future child — so you can see what you have already thought through and where you may still have gaps.
It is not there to tell you what your answer should be. The point is to help you understand your own decision more clearly.
Already ready to go deeper?
Finding women who really get it changes everything.
You can get a lot from a Facebook group, but it is not the same as having women you actually know.
Our communities are built around the stage of solo motherhood you are in, because the woman choosing a donor needs something different from the mum trying to get a five-year-old out the door for school.
They are places to ask the silly questions, the serious questions and the things you probably would not bother explaining to someone who has never lived this family structure.
The Bump
TTC & Pregnancy
Private WhatsApp groups, fortnightly connection calls and women going through treatment and pregnancy at the same time as you.
The Nest
Early Motherhood
Support for the fourth trimester and early years of solo motherhood. The Nest is currently being refreshed for its next chapter.
Solo Mum Society
For mums living the life
A community for solo mums who want actual friendships, regular Connection Calls, smaller interest and location groups, expert sessions and a village around both themselves and their children.
Hi, I’m Alisha
I became a solo mum six weeks before I turned 40, after a very long and very different journey to motherhood than the one I thought I would have.
Solo Mum Society grew out of what I wanted when I was making that decision myself: somewhere that could give me the practical information without treating me like a fertility patient first, show me what life might actually look like afterwards, and connect me with women who understood why this was such a big decision.
Since then I have interviewed more than 160 solo mums, donor-conceived adults, donors and experts through No Need for Prince Charming, worked with women at every stage of this journey, written books for solo-parent and donor-conceived families and watched this community grow into something far bigger than I imagined when I started sharing my own story.
And I am still living it too.
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Want to hear what this life actually looks like?
No Need for Prince Charming began because I wanted women considering solo motherhood to hear more than one version of the story.
There are now more than 160 conversations with solo mums, donor-conceived adults, known and clinic donors, fertility specialists and other experts covering everything from deciding to do this through to raising teenagers.
You do not have to listen in order. Find the question that is on your mind right now and start there.
A few more places you might want to explore
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Bali 2027
A week away where the kids have other families that look like theirs and you have other solo mums to actually holiday with.
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My Perfect Family
Books created to help children see solo motherhood and donor conception reflected as an ordinary part of family life.
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Expert sessions & masterclasses
Practical sessions on the things that come up once you are living this life — from legal planning and body safety to work, online safety and expanding your family.
Prefer to start with the free community?
Our private Facebook group has more than 3,500 women across Australia and New Zealand who are considering solo motherhood, trying to conceive, pregnant or already raising children.
It is a good place to ask questions, hear from other women and start finding your feet in the community.
Wherever you are in this, start where you are.
You do not need to know the whole path from here.
You might need one useful resource. You might need to hear another woman’s story. You might need a course, a community or just somewhere to ask the question you have been carrying around in your head.
Find the stage that feels most like where you are now, and start there.