Considering Solo Motherhood:

Helping you make an informed and empowered choice

Are you thinking you might have a baby on your own using a donor but have no idea where to start?

More and more women are deciding they would rather have a child on their own using a donor than settle for a partner that isn't right for them, just to have a family. With greater awareness of women's fertility, they realise there is a very definite time limit on becoming a mother, but there is no limit on when you can find true love. Thousands of empowered Australian women every year are embracing motherhood on their own terms and creating their own fairytale lives for themselves and their children.

Although it is becoming a more common way to create a family, making the decision to become a solo mum by choice (SMBC) can initially be very overwhelming. There is so much to consider, where do you start?:

  • Can I really do it on my own?

  • What will people think?

  • Does becoming a solo mum mean I am giving up on finding love?

  • How do I choose a donor?

  • How do I get pregnant?

  • Can I afford it?

  • Do I have to do IVF? 

  • What is IUI or my options for conceiving at home?

  • What's the difference between a known donor and an anonymous one?

  • How can I be supported through this journey?

  • How can I give myself the best chance of success?

  • And so many more questions..

You may know of women who have become mums on their own, but do you have anyone you can talk to about it who has been there and done that?

That’s where I come in!

I'm Alisha, and I have a gorgeous four-year-old daughter I conceived on my own using IVF and an unknown donor. The journey to my daughter took over 10 years. It included multiple rounds of fertility treatment, a divorce, and a stillborn son; then, I finally became a mum six weeks before my 40th birthday. I have interviewed over 100 women and experts through my podcast, "No Need for Prince Charming", and published multiple books supporting women and their donor-conceived children. I also help support solo mums by choice to create their village through my private Facebook groups, meet-ups, and international holidays.

If you join my upcoming "Considering Solo Motherhood" group coaching, you will not only finish the course ready to make an empowered decision about whether solo motherhood is the right path for you but you'll also be equipped with the tools and resources to embark on this journey with confidence. 

As an added bonus, you'll build a support network of other women at the same stage and be able to get advice from those who are ahead of you. These women may become the SMBC extended family you never knew you needed.

Your coach Alisha and her daughter Alexandra

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What previous attendees had to say

  • “This course was incredible. As someone considering solo motherhood, I found that it provided all the necessary information to start the process and many aspects I had yet to consider. The small group setting was perfect for sharing ideas and opinions. Alisha was an excellent facilitator, and I am excited to continue this journey with her guidance."

    Tarra

  • “Anyone considering SOLO parenting should do this course. Alisha offered tailored and informative advice within a supportive environment."

    Kate

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FAQs

  • Each of the 90-minute sessions will run over Zoom. All participants are expected to have their cameras on during the session, noting makeup-free and pyjamas are completely acceptable as is wine/tea/snacks..

    With agreement, the sessions will be recorded in case someone misses that session and needs to catch up.

  • If the group agrees the sessions will be recorded and shared with only the participants of the group so you can catch up on the content discussed or refresh yourself on the content after the session

  • This session focuses on what has led us to this decision:

    • Get to know the other members of the group.

    • My own story.

    • What are you currently most worried about or afraid of?

    • How can we let go of the fairytale and embrace an alternative happily ever after?

    • Telling others and celebrating your empowered decision.

    • Building your cheerleader squad.

    • This session will be a lot of getting to know each other and our current situations so the remaining two sessions can be tailored to the specifics of the group

  • This session focuses on your options for a donor:

    • Donor-conceived children's perspectives and considerations.

    • Known/unknown/recruited/anonymous - what are the options and the pros and cons of each option.

    • Known donor and recruited known donors - what to think about, how to ask, the process of conceiving, legal implications and watchouts.

    • Unknown/ID Release/Clinic recruited - what process do donors go through, what are the regulations, how do you select a donor, local vs international, what information do you get?

    • Telling your children they are donor-conceived.

    • Donor siblings.

    • Ideas for adding some joy to the process.

  • This session focuses on your options to conceive with a donor:, 

    • The process if you use a fertility clinic.

    • The process if you use a known donor.

    • AI/IUI/IVF - what's actually involved.

    • What is it all going to cost?

    • Choosing a fertility clinic.

    • Giving yourself the best chances.

    • Supporting your mental health when trying to conceive solo.

    • Old wives' tales and a whole new language.

    • Bringing joy to the process.

    • What if it isn't going to plan.

    • Donor eggs/donor embryos and overseas treatment.

    • How to build your village for support.

  • After each session, the participants will be emailed a list of useful resources to watch, read or listen to that are relevant to the next session to help make the time together as useful as possible. There may also be some reflective exercises to help process the content we have discussed in that session.

  • All participants will be encouraged to join the "Solo Mum Society - Australia" and "Solo Mum Society - considering and creating" private Facebook groups.

    If members of the course want to connect directly with other members a WhatsApp group or Facebook chat can be created.

  • This course and coaching are built on my own experience, interviewing experts and solo mothers by choice and should be treated as general advice. For advice specific to your individual circumstances, it is recommended that you seek expert independent advice from a fertility specialist or legal professional.